You are not a Victim!
When we do things that others criticize, it is difficult to maintain our cause. We need to let our heart, intention and passion drive the bus and not our feelings for others.
Here is a prayer to start each day:
"Spirit, you be in charge. You direct my thoughts all day. If there's no time for me to ask you what to think then I know you have promised that wisdom will be given when I need it. What I do is just a result of what I think, and I trust you to Guide me." - Gary Renard
The Course in Miracles directs us to the understanding that the cause of our problems, unfortunate life events that seem to make us unhappy and the difficulties that make us feel that we are being treated unjustly, is all due to our belief that we are separate from Source/God and our feeling of guilt.
What we give out we will receive. If we give out guilt and feelings of victimization that is what we will receive back. If we give love, compassion and forgiveness then we will experience Love. This is why we are guided to forgive, it is in recognizing that we are 100% responsible for what we experience in our life.